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Reimagine our imagined world: How the stories you tell yourself shape your world

7/27/2022

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One of my favorite sayings is “When your story stops working, make up a new one.” I honestly don’t remember whose wisdom I am repeating, but it is so powerful on many levels. First, it implies that we are constantly making up stories to explain the people and the world around us.

​Second, it puts you in the driver’s seat as the chief storyteller. The world does not happen to you. Rather, you get to create the world around you.
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The book Subliminal by Leonard Mlodinow talks about how our brains are continuously taking in stimuli and filling in the gaps to make meaning and constructs. Everything we observe is literally made up in our minds. So, what is real?

When I listened to the recording of last month’s book discussion on Sapiens by Yuval Harari, the facilitator of the session (and good friend), Tommy Zarembka really got us thinking. Tommy introduced the concept of “imagined order.” Yuval describes imagined order as “based neither on ingrained instincts nor on personal acquaintances but rather on belief in shared myths.” A few coaches on the call commented that they help their clients step away from being in the myth and notice the myths in a different light. This approach helps clients change their mindsets and achieve new results. For example, if someone believes a myth that they’re not good enough and will never succeed, they may begin to focus on the times when they were successful and begin to disrupt this myth about themselves. As the coaches were explaining this concept of disrupting a myth, Tommy asked, “So coaches, let me ask you, are you saying that you’re helping your clients reimagine another imagined myth?” Brilliant question! To which I say, “Yes!” It’s all made up in our minds anyway, so why not choose the story or myth that is going to bring you the most joy, calm, and happiness?

How do you change your story?

This notion of being able to create a new story is so simple, yet extremely powerful. This can change someone from feeling helpless to hopeful. This technique, if you can call it that, not only works to help you change your own view but can also work when dealing with ‘difficult’ people around you. Many years ago, I was co-facilitating training for a group of 20 people, including one woman who had a very negative disposition. From the moment she walked in the training classroom, the coffee was too cold, the room was too hot, she had to take the bus home because of car troubles, etc. It was an endless complaint session, and we still had 20 minutes before the workshop even started!

I turned to my colleague and said sarcastically, “This is going to be a fun day.”

To which my colleague replied, “Must be hard to live that way.”

My story about this person is that she was a complete grouch and poor me was going to have to manage her negativity all day while trying not to drain my energy in the process. My colleague, however, choose a different story. One of empathy, to think how much energy the woman must spend worrying and noticing and absorbing all the negative things happening to her. Hearing my colleague’s story, my entire attitude towards this ‘difficult’ person changed. Suddenly, she wasn’t my problem to own, manage or try to fix. Instead, I felt bad for her, but allowed her to own her own negativity. I was able to let it go and focused on the other 19 people who were very engaged and ready to get the day started.

The best part of our imagined order or myths, as Yuva Harari labels it, is that it is just that, imagined.

What stories are you holding onto that no longer serve you?

What new story are you ready to make up?

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How  to  Change? Do you Start with the Mindset or Behavior?

6/28/2022

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“Stop trying to change hearts and minds. Change the behavior!”

This is the advice guest speaker and author, Minal Bopaiah, shared during our CliffsNotes Book club session last month. Minal was addressing change in DEI and speaking about what works in her experience.

For me, being trained as an Organization Development consultant for 25+ years, this was a complete “mind blown” moment. We are trained to focus on mindset shifts to obtain sustainable change. The thinking is, when you view the world differently, you’re willing to access new/different behaviors.

Minal’s point was that most DEI efforts are intended to change behavior, norms, and ways of interacting. However, it may take ages to win some people over with their “hearts and minds” on certain DEI topics, and some may never agree! But, if they can agree to change behavior to align to the new values and expectations, then that’s progress. I’m not ready to ditch the whole mindset shift thing completely, but I understood her point. It got me wondering if sometimes I overemphasize the importance of a mindset shift to the neglect of behavior change.

The Challenge: Getting Better at Time Management

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​Take time management as an example. Whether you are an executive who needs to learn to get out of the weeds, a new parent who is suddenly juggling a career and a young family, or someone who is simply poor at time management, getting better at time management is a change that many of us would love to make a reality.
 
This topic touches us all, and it’s one that requires a “tune up” from time to time over the course of your career. In meeting with clients recently, I am finding that many organizations are taking a fresh look at their processes and group norms for in-office days, work travel, and collaboration overall as their organizations are returning to the office after extended telework due to COVID.

The Key To Improving Time Management: Look at Your Systems

As I reflected further, I realized that some of the best strategies that I use to manage my own time have required changes to my everyday processes and behaviors. Almost two decades ago, I took a course called “Getting Things Done” with the David Allen Company (No, I don’t get a commission). I learned some basic email tricks in that program that I still use to this day! Here are a few:

  1. You have to schedule time to organize! In other words, I carve out personal meeting time at the beginning and end of each day simply to organize and sort my emails. If I can respond in three minutes or less, I do it, otherwise, it becomes a task on my calendar.
  2.  From a collaborative overload standpoint, and especially for us extroverts, it’s critical to be intentional about who you engage with, and for what purpose. Call it “meeting hygiene.” Being methodical about articulating the purpose and outcomes of a meeting, and defining roles for who is involved and why, all help here.
  3.  Lastly, consistently scheduling quarterly strategy meetings helps me to set a clear vision and goals for the quarter. This in turn offers me boundaries so I know what work to say yes and no to.
 
If you’re looking for sustainable change or buy-in over time, I still believe that mindset plays a large part and, focusing on small actionable behaviors are valuable. It could be exactly what you need to get the momentum going.

Still Unsure Where To Start? Here is Some Inspiration

​I recently read a McKinsey article with the best title ever, “If we are all so busy, why isn’t anything getting done?” It’s a great quick read that offers some recent examples of how organizations have rethought processes and implemented “radical” ideas like no-meetings days. One of my clients actually implemented this idea and they went one step further, they removed meetings for one FULL WEEK! True story! Is it time to re-imagine how you work?
 
What small behavior shifts have you made that have made a big impact?
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How to Avoid or Address Subtle Acts of Exclusion, and Create the Kind of Work Environment Where Your Team Can Shine

6/2/2022

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​“I feel like I am walking on eggshells.”
 
This is something I commonly hear from clients who are afraid of saying the wrong thing in a work setting. Even the most seasoned leaders want to avoid missteps, and as a result they tend to avoid conversations that feel “risky.” Of course, this is at odds with what works in many high-functioning organizations—on the one hand, open, respectful dialogue about sometimes “hard” topics, and on the other, the psychological safety that allows for people to feel comfortable opening up, and being vulnerable.
 
I was thinking a lot about the “eggshells” at our recent CliffsNotes Book Club meeting. Last month’s book was Subtle Acts of Exclusion, by Tiffany Jana and Michael Baran. The title of the book is the new phrase for what we previously called “micro-agressions.” The newer phrase avoids “micro” which can mean insignificant, and “aggression” which can imply the intent to harm. With acts of exclusion, it’s not about the intent, it’s about the impact.
 
In the book, the authors push us to think about the risks of speaking up versus not speaking up. (And that’s where you crunch the eggshells.) In my work with leaders at all levels over the past three decades, I have met many big-hearted, capable people who avoid such conversations. Many things can get in the way of the kinds of conversations that may seem awkward, but that lead us to deeper, more meaningful connections. Here are three common barriers, and ways to address them.

Tips for Leaders – Avoiding or Addressing Subtle Acts of Exclusion

1. “I want to be authentic at work, and I feel I am being silenced or cannot talk about certain topics.” 

Reality check: It’s not about limiting your authenticity—it’s just that you can’t be a jerk, at work or anywhere for that matter. Acts of exclusion are seemingly small comments that can make others feel left out, or less than. For example, going around the room and asking “how many children do you have?” versus “does anyone else have young kids?” is a simple reframe that can set the tone for group dynamics in that conversation and beyond. It’s okay to mention your own children. It’s not okay to assume all others have children.
 
Decades ago when we talked about “political correctness” people took away the understanding that they must circumvent certain personal topics or discussions in a professional setting. And this can make people feel as if they cannot be themselves. I would argue that in most places of work you are encouraged to share about yourself, provided you do not impose your values on others and provided you avoid making assumptions about others. For example, it’s wonderful to wish a new mom “Happy Mother’s Day,” but perhaps avoid wishing all women the same. Just pause and think first.
 
2. “Sometimes I just don’t know what to say.” 

When something comes up that could offend you or others, something that you know you “should” respond to, but you are speechless, what do you do? I find that it helps to have a reaction prepared—to avoid a speechless moment. A question such as, “What makes you think that?” can draw the person out, without condoning what they have said, and give you time to regain composure and react.
 
At Book Club, we talked about how terrible it feels to be caught off guard, and how it can be especially hard to advocate for someone in response to an act of exclusion you might be witness to, but that might not directly impact you. As a group, we brainstormed possible phrases to have ready, for when you need them. For example, here are a couple to keep in your back pocket.
  • “That was awkward.” or “That was unexpected.”
  • “I need a moment to process what is happening.”
 
These phrases buy you time, point toward the issue, and open up a discussion on what transpired. They hit the “pause” button on the conversation. They also allow others time to chime in.
 
3. “I don’t want to make it worse, and I know I have blind spots.” 

As a leader, people are watching what you do and say—and what conversations you avoid. You are the keeper of the culture and you are modeling what leadership means in your organization. That said, this is an honor not a burden.
 
I always say, it’s not about perfection, it’s about course-correction. Having the courage to open up a discussion that may feel awkward or messy is part of professionalism in today’s world. And not doing it could have a long-term negative impact on the relationships and team dynamic. My advice? Acknowledge the challenge, demonstrate that you’re in learning mode, and ask for feedback. Say something like, “This is out of my comfort zone, but the conversation is important. Can we talk about this for a minute?”
 
For more tips, and notes from the book club discussion/highlights from the book, head over to the portal.
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Headed back to the office? How Polarity Thinking™ can help you navigate this change for yourself and your team

5/1/2022

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​The struggle is real. So many of my clients right now are focused on navigating re-entry to the office. For some, it’s about “active inertia,” the notion that it’s hard to shift back to picking up dry cleaning and paying for tolls after so many months of working from the dining room table in your sweat pants. For others, there are very real concerns about COVID, the variants, etc.—and very different levels of comfort with health and safety protocols. As I reflect on the push / pull factors, it’s noteworthy that many of my clients are doing just fine working remotely. They have gotten into a good groove with collaboration tools, and engagement has not suffered. Yet what I am hearing is that many organizations are concerned about the long-term effects that remote working will have on culture. There’s fear that new hires won’t acclimate, and that over time people may lose their sense of connection to each other and to the organization. There’s something about in-person face time that serves as glue. And there’s fear that things are getting unstuck.

How to look at a complex challenge—map it

When faced with a layered and complex challenge, I know it's time to pull out one of my favorite, most versatile tools, the Polarity Map™. Polarities are a way to help you reframe a “problem” and consider the upsides and downsides of the two seemingly opposing forces at play. In some cases it’s helpful to do a simple “pros and cons” list, and consider upsides and downsides of a choice. Polarities, however, are more complex and nuanced, and they get you out of “diagonal thinking,” an either/or mindset, and into a “both/and” mindset which opens up creativity and possibilities.
 
At CliffsNotes Book Club this month, the architect of Polarity Thinking™, Dr. Barry Johnson, spoke about his book And: Making a Difference by Leveraging Polarity, Paradox, or Dilemma. For a primer on polarities, find notes and the recording on the portal. Also visit Barry’s Polarity Partnerships site.
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​Laura Mendelow and Dr. Barry Johnson

When considering the return to the office, what is the polarity at play

​Two years into the pandemic, the polarity I am helping many clients see and navigate is a focus on culture versus a focus on results. For many, the central question is: How can you scale culture -and- maintain results -all while- we are navigating hybrid work and return to the office (whatever that looks like for your organization)?
 
As we consider return to the office, I mapped the two poles as ‘focus on culture’ and ‘focus on results.’ Ideally, we want to spend more time in the ‘upsides’ of each, where you’re productive -and- engaged.
 
The positives of focusing on culture are what you’d expect to see among the “great workplaces” award winners, namely:
  1. Collaborative environment. Respect for all.
  2. Focus on growth and development of staff.
  3. Take time to strategize.
 
The positives of focusing on results are what investors want to see, and also make for stability and job security. These include:
  1. Efficient. Respect for authority.
  2. Focus on output and numbers.
  3. Respond quickly to the needs of the market.
 
Understanding the polarity at play, and what the upsides and downsides of each pole are, will help you navigate the flow between the two poles. As I talk with leaders about the map, it allows the conversation to shift away from the rules and COVID protocols, and focus on the bigger picture goals, and how each person contributes. It’s a plug-and-play discussion starter for a team meeting and can spark a wonderful idea-storm with solutions specific to your organization. Let me know how it helps your group!
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Back to Our Roots: Examining 'Being & Doing' Through a Polarity-Thinking Lens

3/29/2022

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​At last month’s book club meeting, we discussed a book that was out of the ordinary for our “CliffsNotes” Book Club that typically focuses on business books. We featured Braiding Sweetgrass Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and the Teachings of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer.

On the surface, the book offers no immediate lessons for CEOs or up-and-coming frontline leaders. Yet we were all mesmerized and found immediate ways to apply it to our work as coaches, facilitators, and leaders. Most interestingly: the book was written in 2014, but it’s recently getting a lot of attention—and it’s now a best seller.
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The book is beautifully written and has many great lessons; however, what captured my attention is the larger narrative. Why are so many people paying attention to this book, and why now? 

​It's a book about lessons from indigenous people and Mother Nature. How is it that now we are finally waking up and acknowledging the beauty, strength, and benefits of connecting with earth? 

One reason that I'll offer, and of course this is just a hypothesis, is that in this fast paced, highly-technical world, with advances in Artificial Intelligence and Machine Learning, we want to get back to our roots. We’re craving it. Through the lens of polarity-thinking, I see the tensions of “Being” and “Doing.” Perhaps as a society, we're (finally) recognizing that we're leaning too far into the “Doing” and have ignored the “Being?” Here's what it looks like on a polarity map, with "Doing" and "Being" as the two poles. 
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Being & Doing – Through a Polarity-Thinking Lens

Let’s look at “Doing” and “Being” from a polarity perspective, and consider the upsides and downsides of each end of the pole.

On the one pole of "Doing,” people are collaborating with partners across the world and dreaming up innovations they never knew were possible. New AI systems allow us to work faster, smarter, and more efficiently. We have WiFi, we connect to work on all of our handheld devices, and we have the flexibility to work from home, which reduces commute time and further increases productivity time! There are so many upsides of “Doing!”

That said, we've already seen, and many of us feel, the downsides of overusing this pole... We're burned out. Many of us have no boundaries from working from home. It’s a 24/7 work week, we experience information overload with access to news as it happens all around the globe, and we’re expected to be everything to everyone. There’s no pause for life’s mishaps and for many a 3-day weekend is a “vacation.”

Perhaps the pull and appeal to this book is that we're reaching out to the other pole. We’re connecting with the appeal of “Being.”

The upsides of “Being” are about coming back to our roots, slowing down, appreciating the beauty right in front of us...A focus on “Being” redirects you to not put all of your energy into improving, fixing, changing, but instead to carve out time for thinking, observing, and paying attention to appreciating what is. It’s about leveraging what already exists—and connecting back to our purpose and our meaning.

Sometimes all it takes is finding a “Sit Spot.”

There was an exercise I once heard of called having a "Sit Spot." This is a spot in nature, outside your home or place of work (somewhere you visit regularly) and for 5, 10, or 15 minutes a day, you just sit in that spot and observe. You may notice the same squirrels running by, or the same song that birds sing to alert others when you walk out the door, or the way things look different based on the time of day or weather. By just simply sitting and observing you recognize all that is around you. You share this home with others; it is just as much their home as it is yours. 

“Being” also has downsides. Perhaps we don't operate in this pole as often because of the fear of leaning in too much. We fear becoming complacent, lack of energy, no ambition, no drive, etc. 

How do you leverage the best of “Being” and “Doing?”

With a polarity-thinking lens and Mother Nature lens on, I wonder how we can best lean into both ends of the poles, to get best benefits of both “Being” and “Doing?”

Most of us are already great at "Doing" but what are some ideas to lean into "Being." Here are a few ideas to start. Many came from the Braiding Sweetgrass discussion at Book Club.

How to Leverage “Being” at Work
  • When hosting a conference or offsite, during a break, set up a tour of the land to learn its history
  • Build in synchronous time for downtime and reflection. Example: all employees agree to no meetings on Fridays
  • Schedule offsites to reflect and step back from the day to day and encourage meetings to be outdoors when possible
  • Bring tennis shoes and sunscreen to work, and have outdoor walking meetings
  • Simply be present when having 1:1 conversations (in person or virtual)—stop multi-tasking and listen to one conversation
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How to Leverage “Being” at Home
  • Set out bird feeders and create vegetable and flower gardens with your family
  • Create sleeping bags or bunk beds for your phones, tuck them in at night and don't bring them into your bedroom (or let them nap during dinner) – this is a tip from Arianna Huffington
  • Establish family traditions that incorporate nature. Examples: Saturday morning walks, volunteering on a farm, etc.
  • Create a compost bin and use the soil to create a garden and watch the wildflowers and vegetables bloom! This came up in our book club session as I talked about my “failed” compost which had so many “volunteer plants” that I could not keep up with “weeding.” Now, I'll find a place for the wild vegetables to grow. Why not?
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If you are interested in learning more about polarity-thinking, join our April Book Club session (April 13, 2022). We are so delighted to have the author, Dr. Barry Johnson, join us and engage in dialogue on his book 'And: Making a Difference by Leveraging Polarity, Paradox or Dilemma.' To register, visit the Book Club portal.

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Decision-making, healthy debate, and thinking again

2/24/2022

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Alfred P. Sloan famously said, “If we are all in agreement on the decision, then I propose we postpone further discussion of this matter until our next meeting to give ourselves time to develop disagreement and perhaps gain some understanding of what the decision is all about.”

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We remembered this quote at a recent Book Club meeting, as we were discussing Adam Grant’s Think Again. The book is about re-learning, being courageous enough to change your mind, and reconsidering your assumptions. Integral to the discussion is the realization that agreement is not always a good thing. For leaders in the workplace, how do you encourage others to "rethink," and how do you model this behavior for your team?

​As part of the book club discussion, we were reflecting on why it is that many of us, in the workplace and beyond, avoid conflict. What’s more, some leaders conflate “disagreement,” “conflict,” and “healthy debate”—and avoid all three!

In my experience supporting leaders at all levels, from newly minted leaders to C-suite executives, I find that there are three key reasons why we avoid conflict.
  1. A belief that conflict damages relationships. Their ability to develop strong relationships is the very reason many leaders believe that they are in a leadership role in the first place (and so successful in it!)... So why risk it?
  2. Fear that conflict may look poorly upon the leader and give the perception that the leader has lost control of the discussion, and/or doesn't have a handle on the situation. 
  3. Dislike of being challenged, or fear of realizing that their (own) idea is not so genius after all.

And of course it may well be a combination thereof!

If you are hesitant to want to engage in debate, whether it’s challenging a decision or testing a hypothesis to ensure it is fit for purpose, I offer you some strategies to try out.

How to make a decision with a group and encourage healthy debate

Before you begin...
  • Share background information before the meeting and context regarding the decision to be made.
  • Set expectations. Prepare everyone in advance by sharing that it’s our goal to “poke holes at this decision.”
  • Plan for how you're going to make the final decision, e.g., “We're going to debate for one hour, regroup tomorrow, and take a vote on the decision.”
  • Agree to commit, i.e., "We will all align to the final decision as a unified team."
  • Be thoughtful about who's part of the discussion. Outside of the core team, invite people who were never involved in this decision and/or will not be strongly impacted by it. Either invite all stakeholders or have a picture of all stakeholders to make sure they're represented.

During the meeting...
  • As the leader, lay out a few options. Kick off the conversation to reveal a potential risk or problem with the decision.
  • Ask permission, e.g., "Can we debate about this?" (This question of Adam Grant’s is just awesome!) or “Can we brainstorm?” (This idea came from Book Club. Using the term “brainstorm session” vs. “debate” is disarming. For some, “debate” can be intimidating and can trigger emotions in a way that “brainstorm” does not.)
  • Build off of other people's comments when they disagree, to emphasize their points. Keep in mind, as Adam Grant says, “Dialogue is a dance,” which means that sometimes you lead, and sometimes you follow.
  • Assign roles in the meeting, such as: the "Pollyanna" role, the "nay-sayer," the "yes but," and the "yes and" roles. Having pre-assigned roles allows people to speak more freely, because it creates emotional distance and helps people "save face," if they feel that their idea is not fully baked.
  • Engage in scenario planning. Consider, the “What ifs…”
 
Wrap up
  • Recap the options, and highlight any new ideas that emerged from the discussion.
  • Reiterate your commitment to the plan for how you will make the final decision (i.e., sleep on it, then vote, etc.)

Regroup
  • Make the decision and commit as a unified team. (Remember you set up the discussion with a 'pinky promise,' so this step is not a surprise.)
  • Agree to how/when/what to communicate to others who may be impacted by the decision. 
  • It's also important to ask for reactions to how people felt about the process, and to what tweaks they would like to plan for as you face any future decisions. 

Try it out, and let me know how it goes!
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Self-Sabotage: How to identify the lies we tell ourselves, and how to get out of your own way

1/28/2022

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This topic brings me back a couple of decades. I was in a lecture hall at college, and the audience was college-aged students and senior citizens who were participating in a summer program. The presenter asked the audience what we all took to be a rhetorical question, “Why do we self-sabotage?” But a quiet voice from the audience, coming from an eighty-year-old woman with a German-Jewish accent, answered out loud, “I don’t know.”
 
The surprise of hearing her answer out lout and sweetness of her voice have stuck with me. In the moment, I was surprised. Twenty-year-old Laura thought that by eighty, everyone would have an answer—or a better way!
 
Yet, here I am, at mid-life, reading books on the topic. In fact, PQ is my latest training program. We all know about IQ and EQ, and now there’s PQ, or Positive Intelligence. This measure of “mental fitness” was the subject of our book club talk this month. Janice Shack-Marquez led the discussion and shared highlights from the book Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine.
 
At the core of Chamine’s work is the premise that, the reason why so many of our attempts at self-improvement fail, is that we sabotage ourselves. 
 
PQ is learning to put your mind to work in service of your best interest. And to end the self-sabotage.
 
What kind of self-sabotage is Chamine referring to? It’s the moments you tell yourself you are not good enough to go up for promotion, the times in which you avoid a task or avoid conflict, the achievements you go after only to earn other’s acceptance or approval, etc.
 
These are concepts we all grapple, with, and they are certainly present for many of the leaders I work with in coaching and training programs. What is quite useful about the PQ model is the language that describes what the mind is doing. Chamine puts a little twist to his explanation of each saboteur and highlights the “lie” that each saboteur tells. For example:

  • The Judge Saboteur makes you find faults with yourself.  The lie is that without it, you would amount to nothing.
  • The Avoider Saboteur overemphasizes the positive and avoids the negative.  The lie is that you are being positive, not avoiding your problems.
 
The vocabulary of “saboteurs” and “lies” are incredibly useful.
 
When we label something, we are better able to identify it and to do something about it—as individuals and in a group setting. The simple fact that we are aware that these mind patterns exist will make us notice when we fall into the patterns, and better equipped to subvert the self-sabotage. I’ll share two examples.
 
First, an example from the perspective of an individual leader.
 
You are in a difficult situation and are trying hard to be accommodating. Relationships are important to you, so you put others first. In fact, you’re going out of your way to honor others’ preferences and perspectives. Yet no one recognizes your efforts, and you become resentful! While your initial goal was to strengthen relationships, you now are left feeling disconnected and resentful.
 
Here's an example in a group setting.
 
Teams can also display patterns and fall into habits that self-sabotage. Envision a team that is overly focused on quality. They are perfectionists, and that’s a source of pride, but it also prevents them from making decisions, and from taking action. One solution is to notice the pattern and call it out. Raising awareness will help the team be more productive and spend fewer cycles spinning on small improvements.
 
The book and PQ program goes into greater detail about how to build your mental fitness, but noticing is a great first step. If you are interested to learn more, check out the notes from book club and the PQ online self-assessment (free online at this link).

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What do you do? The short answer (leadership development) and the 30,000-foot view

12/27/2021

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I just got on a plane for the first time in forever! The best part? (After the gluten-free in-flight snacks and time to browse the best seller books in Hudson News, of course…)
 
Small talk with strangers!
 
I got into some great conversations with my seat buddies—beyond the “elevator pitch”—that really got to the core of why I do the work I do. The newsletter and blog have picked up a lot of new subscribers in recent months, so I thought I’d share these thoughts with you…
 
Our clients are mainly global IT, healthcare, and professional services firms wanting support with leadership development. Clients come to us wanting to hold onto their culture (and “the secret sauce”) while helping them grow leaders as fast as their business is growing. We support leadership development, through our specialized training (now virtual cohorts) and one-on-one executive coaching, as well as consulting work. But this is probably the 5,000-foot level. The big picture is much bigger.
 
As I scan the environment of our society and work-worlds today, here are some things that stand out. While we are more connected through advances in technology, we are less engaged. As a society, our mental well-being is suffering. Loneliness, depression, and stress are alarmingly high. At work, leaders struggle to connect with others and create real, meaningful relationships. And at home, many of us feel confined to a small space (that was never intended to be a home office) and are experiencing too much together time. So much so that we end up getting on each other’s nerves.   
 
At Mendelow Consulting Group, we see ourselves as catalysts to help individual leaders push beyond these challenges by helping others increase their feeling of connection, increase their sense of value, and boosting their empowerment. And, we know that if we can support leaders at work, those same leaders influence those around them at home and in their communities.
 
This is why we say, “we develop leaders at work and at home.” We believe that you are a leader in all domains of your life. The models, tools, and strategies we offer in our leadership programs will definitely provide a boost to leaders in the workplace and the benefits go way beyond the workplace. 
 
The 30,000-foot view is beautiful. It is a more connected society, and a more peaceful and equitable one. One where acts of violence are rare. A place where children grow up feeling heard and respected. And a place where neighbors have the patience and curiosity to listen and respect differing viewpoints. A community in which the people around us feel connected, valued, and empowered, at work and beyond.
 
This is our small part in making the world a better place. This is what we do.
 
I’d love your thoughts on what resonates, and how we can support positive change, together.

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The art and science of apologies – at work and beyond

12/6/2021

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Like many moms, I usually schedule my two boys’ doctor’s visits or dental exams on the same day. There’s a sure-fire way I know if the person at the front desk (i.e., the one who checks us in and takes our names) is really in the moment. 
 
You see – my boys have the same birthday, three years apart. When I check in for appointments, I can always tell if the person at the desk is really ‘in the moment.’ They will comment on the boys’ dates of birth. (“Is this an error?” “What are the chances?!”) If they don’t notice the coincidence, it’s likely that they are just going through the motions. Or they are distracted. Customer service win if they notice!
 
I was thinking about being in the moment as I have been tuned into the art and science of apologies. So much of being able to apologize to someone is about taking notice of the misstep you took and the harm you did to the other person. It’s also about being present to notice the other person’s reaction, and to know how to approach an apology.
 
Our book club book this month was The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All of Your Relationships, by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas. Apologies are part of every relationship, at work and beyond. If you’re in a customer-service role, apologies are critically important—nearly every day! In other work settings, addressing issues as they arise, and not letting feelings get hurt or issues fester is critical to a work culture that values every team member and motivates you to come to work—and put in the discretionary effort. This book is excellent and provides guidance for how to ensure an apology is received and does the repair work it’s intended to do. (For more about the book, check out the discussion notes on the book club portal.)
 
What are some strategies for effectively apologizing? Here are some of my insights…
 
Elements of an Effective Apology: Three Take-Aways
  1. Be Present – “Sorry” can be a quick comment when you bump into someone on a crowded street, but for bigger issues, an apology must be offered with intention, when you are truly in the moment. In the age of distraction, and with so much competing for our attention, being present is the fastest way to be the most thoughtful and genuine person in the room. And apologies are not a time for going through the motions.
  2. Get to the Why – You must first understand why someone is upset—then you can offer an apology worthy of being accepted. Imagine a customer-service interaction where a customer is calling in to check on the status of an order. They could become irate because their call keeps getting passed along and transferred from person to person. That could be the real issue that needs to be acknowledged, not the delayed product delivery.
  3. Con-front – If you break down the word “confront,” it means to face something (‘front’) together or with (‘con’) someone. At its core, it is much more about working it out than it is about fighting. Much of this has to do with communicating with someone, versus to or at someone. And listening.
 
Finally, a re-frame… While apologies can be uncomfortable and stress-inducing, reframe it. They are a chance to connect with someone, and to demonstrate to them just how much they mean to you.

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Listening for the noise – Is the secret to quiet the noise, or to learn to hear it?

11/5/2021

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When you think of “noise,” as it relates to our ability to make good decisions, what comes to mind? For many it is “distractions.” As you get a bit deeper in the topic, you’ll find that it’s also about bias. In the book Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment, authors Daniel Kahneman, Olivier Sibony, and Cass Sunstein present years of research studying human decision-making. They define noise as “unwanted variability” in judgement.
 
If you missed the book club discussion this month, check out the fabulous notes by Maggi Cary on the CliffsNotes Book Club portal. The top-line summary is:

  • Noise is unwanted variability in judgment that can cause economic loss, errors, and injustice.
  • Judgment is a conclusion that can be summarized in a word or phrase. Judgment is the result of our deliberations.
  • Wherever there is judgment, there is noise--and probably more than you think.
 
What’s the big deal about noise?
 
The examples shared in the book are bone-chilling. The authors share examples in variability among sentencing terms—based on whether the judge has eaten or not, and depending on the ambient temperature in the courtroom.
 
It made me think that, even if we are not, as judges are, in a profession where our work can determine someone’s fate, there is no doubt that our daily decisions and interactions have impact on the people around us, at work and beyond. A bad night’s sleep, a health scare, or even a run-in with someone’s road rage may have some emotional spill over into our work, and may cloud our judgement as we may decisions on which vendor to select, who to promote, or how to receive an offer of help…among others!
 
How do you quiet the noise?
 
In the book, the authors offer strategies to promote “decision hygiene.” Among the tips, they suggest that you use algorithms, data, statistics where possible; resist the urge to follow intuition; and leverage third-party reviews and compile the results. Process and criteria are your friends when it comes to consistency in decision-making.
 
Taking a step back, I would offer my biggest takeaway. It’s that I now to listen for the noise. My awareness is more tuned into it, and this can help me to pause and check myself.

​When you hear the noise – Three questions that can help

  1. What is on my mind, aside from the task at hand?
  2. What process can support me in making a good decision?
  3. What factors are influencing my decision, and is that the right set of criteria?
 
Let me know what works for you, and how else you manage to lower the volume on the noise around us.
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Who ever said that professional = serious. The case for laughter in the workplace

9/24/2021

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A RIDDLE: ​

It’s the best medicine, and we take less and less of it as we age.   

ANSWER: Laughter, of course.

Research tells us that we laugh less and less after age 23. Is it a coincidence that, for many college graduates, it’s around that time that they enter the workplace full-time? Depending on the culture of your work environment, you may avoid humor all together. Fear of being perceived as unprofessional or disrespectful can make us stiff, hyper-correct, and overly-serious. This phenomenon has been called the “humor cliff.”
 
Join me in a movement to bring back the laughter!
 
Book Club this month dove into the book Humor, Seriously, by Jennifer Aaker and Naomi Bagdonas. This book builds the business case for laughter in the workplace, and it’s pretty compelling. In a nutshell, humor at work increases our sense of connection and generates more creative ideas.
 
So how do we inject fun back into the workday?
 
There’s no need to take a comedy class, memorize jokes, or dress like a clown. It’s not performative humor; it’s about levity—which is much more simple and much more accessible. I rounded up a few fun examples:

  • Employee awards are a great way to get spunky and creative. For example, create an award of white tube socks to someone who “knocks your socks off”—make this a weekly or monthly recognition.
  • Bringing levity to a group meeting or training can open people up and allow them to share more about real challenges. To set the tone from the start, one can share a quick story in your introduction. It may be about an experience from the weekend, the weather, or a show you watched the night before. It’s a way of modeling humor and giving others permission to lighten up.
  • One book club participant manages to weave in this statement during interviews, “You’re only perfect when you are born and when on a job interview” to help the interviewee relax a little.
  • Inside jokes are a great way to build levity at work. The key to generating them is noticing something, and then sharing it. Years ago, back in the days of dressing for work, one of my colleagues forgot to change into her dress shoes and, after a 1.5 hour commute, arrived at work in fuzzy slippers. You better believe we milked that for months!
  • Consider the physical space in your office. At book club, someone mentioned an organization that calls the conferences room different business buzz words such as, “Let’s unpack this.”
  • A ‘bad-ideas brainstorm’ can get the whole room laughing, and it can also truly support risk management as you think ahead to what might derail a project or initiative. Try it with your most serious PMP-certified colleague!
 
Modeling levity is important at home, too. My husband and I have always made it a point to laugh together. My family loves to watch shows such as Impractical Jokers. We have been known to invent games such as “soap soccer” (which involves a tarp and soapy water, however it’s not recommended) and balloon tennis (turns out you can hit a balloon VERY hard with a racket, and it won’t break - great for releasing some stress too!). Whether your children are toddlers or teenagers, laughing together, and showing your kids that you can laugh at yourself, is a great way to connect.
 
The bottom line is that levity takes the pressure off. You don’t need to be a stand-up comic to tell jokes. A little laughter can go a long way toward strengthening relationships at work and getting everyone in the right mindset for a productive day in the office, and beyond.
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Stuck in the middle: How today’s leaders are navigating the transition back to the office, while honoring their team members’ needs and the business needs

9/1/2021

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​You’ve likely seen illustrations that depict the sandwich generation, where many are caring for aging parents at the same time as raising their own young kids. This sandwich is reminding me of a dynamic at play with today’s leaders. Leaders are stuck in the middle between what their team members are asking for and what their company is mandating. As many organizations are returning to the office, and in some cases mandating in-person office and meeting time, leaders are looking to honor what their employees want and need, and adhere to the company policies. The transition back to the office is causing leaders pressure to lean into what feels like competing needs.
 
How do you hold that balance between what employees are asking for and what the organization needs? This balancing act is not unique to the transition back to the office after months of telework. And it’s not new to leaders. It also shows up in career conversations, where you have to find that sweet spot between an employee’s talents and passions and the direction of the business. Yet a year-and-a-half into the pandemic, our resources are spent.
 
Stuck in the middle is not a good place to be, but how are the best leaders handling it?

Polarity Map: Here’s a tool that can help.

I have shared before how polarity thinking can help you navigate a situation in which there are seemingly two opposing forces or poles. Knowing how to identify the polarity, and understanding the upsides and downsides of each pole, will help you lead through the tensions.
 
As you consider the company policy, the poles may be Customization and Standardization.
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On the one hand, you run the risk of making too many exceptions for individual team members, and on the other hand, you run the risk of being too rigid and adhering to the rules for the sake of the rules.
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Every employee’s situation is unique, and may require some customization or flexwork arrangement. Sometimes you need to advocate for the team member, and push back on the policy. Other times, you may need to help coach someone out, if they are no longer a fit for the organization. Knowing the polarities at play will help you navigate the situation. 

Here are some considerations…

Considerations: Customization
As with so many leadership challenges, it starts with asking the right questions. Leaders need to get curious. Ask questions re their team member’s individual needs, and how they are working best, in what environment. Some people can’t wait to go back to the office. Others have a stomachache just thinking about it. Get in tune with each person’s needs.
 
Considerations: Standardization
Many companies are writing clear and precise policies about returning to the office. Behind these policies is an attempt to demonstrate and help ensure the team can get the work done, safely. Familiarize yourself with these policies and understand why they’re in place. Talk with your senior leaders if you disagree with an approach and ensure you’re aligned with your management team.

Beware of the traps!

If you are overly focused on one or the other of the poles, you are going to be at risk of falling into a trap. As I work with leaders during this time of re-entry to the office, here are some of the traps I have been hearing about:

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Making Magic
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What I have heard: Many companies are now requiring that their employees return to the office. With this new emphasis on standardization, some employees are resisting and feeling a lack of concern for their individual needs. They’re pushing back and saying that there must be a “reason” to meet in person, and expecting the leader to make it “worth their while.” Managers have said they’re now feeling this new pressure to come up with the magic formula to keep employees satisfied when working in-person.
 
What you can do: Lean into customization...but not too far. Don’t fall into the trap that you, as the leader, have to come up with the magic plan to make it worth their while AND honor the fact that they are expecting customization in how they now operate as a team in-person. Instead, work in partnership with your employees to create a customized plan. Ask what they need to make it worth their while (customization), and ask them to contribute the process, too. Perhaps your team decides to have designated outdoor collaboration sites or they want to arrange potluck lunches. Whatever the plan is, develop it together and share the responsibility for the customized workplace they desire.

2. No Time to Meet
What I have heard: Another potential risk is making too many exceptions for individuals on the team. If you’re over-accommodating to the needs of individuals, you may end up in a situation where no one can schedule a meeting because everyone has a unique schedule, with no overlapping time between 9 to 5. This may seem like an exaggeration, but it’s a real example.
 
What you can do: Lean into standardization. Let the team know the boundaries and expectations and the importance of creating standards across the team in order to be most productive. Engage with the entire team to set team agreements on what will work best across the team. They may decide that everyone comes in on Wednesdays or when you’re off the clock, you make exceptions to attend certain meetings. The more the team engages to develop these agreements, the more likely it’ll stick.
 
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If you’re feeling stuck in the middle, the polarity map can be a great tool to help you get unstuck. Draw a sideways figure eight on a paper and jot down your own pressures and fears. Think about the questions you can ask to help get clarity and to help find the right balance.
 
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Which comes first, happiness or success? Secrets from positive psychology to help you exceed your own wildest expectations.

7/26/2021

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If I told you that I have a secret that will instantly make you 31% more productive, would you want to try it? What’s more—there’s no cost, no nasty side-effects, and nothing illegal. You in?
 
The secret is positivity. Psychologists and neuroscientists tell us that taking on a positive mindset can boost productivity by 31%. If you have a positive mindset and you face a difficult situation, you see it as a challenge not a threat. Neuroscience tell us that when you’re in a positive mindset, your brain releases dopamine, which turns on the learning centers. It increases your capacity to see the possibilities, to creatively problem-solve, and to get through it, whatever 'it' is.
 
So which comes first, success or happiness? Many people think you have success and then happiness will follow. Instead, it’s the opposite. You choose happiness, then success follows.
 
If it’s that easy, then how do we flip the switch?
 
In this TED Talk by Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work, you'll learn few tips.

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​Exercise, meditation, and a daily gratitude practice are among the strategies.

​Not sure where to start? One of the tips is something you can try right now. ​

Take a moment and jot down three things you are grateful for. Every day for 30 days, jot down three more. Each day, your list must be three new things. You will quickly accumulate a long list and increase your capacity for appreciation. You’re rewiring your brain for happiness.

​Check out Achor's book or the 12-minute 
TED talk for more details and inspiration. What helps you to flip the switch?
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Are you still unclear on how to further Diversity, Equity and Inclusion (DEI) in your organization? Start where you are…

6/30/2021

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It was Arthur Ashe who said, “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” It’s been over a year since the death of George Floyd. In the workplace and beyond, more and more people feel the urgency to make positive change, and to do their part for social justice. In my work with leaders, I find that many are informed, motivated, and outraged, but remain unsure of their next steps. The quote from Arthur Ashe is a great one. Start where you are. What could that look like for you?

Here are three ways  to start where you are...

1)   Fully leverage your people data

If you are in an organization that sends out a company-wide survey annually or every other year, you have valuable data right at your fingertips. Most managers will receive their team or business unit data, skim through the results and perhaps review the pluses and deltas with their leadership team. Lately, however, I’ve noticed a trend of managers getting curious. Even when the results are positive, leaders are willing to dig in further and slice and dice the data to uncover patterns.
 
In one case, a leader had received high ratings and still decided to investigate further. To his surprise, when he analyzed the data differently, there was a clear gender discrepancy in a handful of items. He reached out to MCG, and our associates conducted focus groups and engaged with the leadership team to implement specific strategies. The focus group themselves were powerful and appreciated by the staff. Staff were grateful that their leader cared enough to examine their results and get to the core of important issues. (In fact, one participant sent a personal thank-you, grateful for the opportunity to have such an open discussion with the team.)

Action: Even if you receive high ratings on an engagement survey, get curious and examine your company-wide data to see where you can improve.

2) Assess the organizational mood

Our book club discussion this month focused on the book Reinventing Diversity by Howard Ross. One of the most useful takeaways was Ross’ list of “12 Building Blocks for Culture.” It’s a really powerful list (see an abbreviated list of questions below). 

In particular, I was captivated by #6 on the list, “organizational mood.” Two questions Ross proposes for this area are:
  • What is the general mood of the organization?
  • What emotions come to mind?
 
Mood is similar to “climate,” and emotions are the weather, or what’s going on throughout the organization. As a coach and facilitator, I will be asking about mood to see what comes up for people. It’s an accessible way to enter into what can sometimes be a difficult conversation.

Action: Incorporate questions about organizational mood into your 1:1 or skip-level meetings.


 12 Building Blocks for Culture 
 With sample questions


  1. Organization Focus: Why does the organization exist?
  2. Leadership: How do they demonstrate their commitment to diversity, inclusion and cultural competency?
  3. Structure: What are the strengths in the way the organization is structured in terms of creating a diverse, inclusive, culturally competent culture?
  4. Financial Health: What is the financial health of the organization and how is it impacted by diversity, inclusion and cultural competency?
  5. Internal and external forces: Are the internal and external concerns that will now and in the future have an effect on the organization’s ability to be successful and how does diversity related issues affect those concerns?
  6. Organizational Mood: What is the general mood of the organization? What emotions come to mind?
  7. Relationships (Internal and External): Do people relate well across lines of diversity identity? How well do diverse people collaborate?
  8. Feedback Processes (Internal/External): How is behavior that is considered outside of the desired culture confronted?
  9. Knowledge Sharing: How does the organization utilize the collective knowledge of its diverse employee base? 
  10. History/Tradition: What are the historical origins and traditions of the organization?
  11. Organizational Learning: How are people developed in the organization?
  12. Personal Skills: What talents and skills are missing that the organization needs in order to be successful in today’s market?

3) Be flexible

In the book, Ross also talks about “cultural flexibility.” It is a systematic approach to incorporating an awareness of diversity and skills related to diversity into everything an organization does. I see this as integration.
 
Even in mature organizations, it’s important to notice where diversity skills and awareness of diversity is missing. Years ago, one of our MCG team members worked at a university with a big international focus. Many of the biggest majors had global curriculum, more than 20% of the student body had completed high school outside the U.S., and each semester hundreds of students studied abroad. Yet the post office on campus struggled to find the charge code to send a package internationally, and the employee phone lines (this was in the days of long-distance calling codes), did not allow for overseas calls. These were small annoyances, but examples that illustrate how an initiative must reach all corners of an organization in order to truly demonstrate cultural flexibility.

Action: Re-evaluate your processes and systems from your customer’s perspective, and notice what aligns (and doesn’t align) to your company’s DEI strategy.
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You gotta know when to hold em...What poker teaches us about life

5/25/2021

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This blog post begins with some desk-side Karaoke:
“You gotta know when to hold em…know when to fold them…know when to walk away…know when to run…”
(Sorry if it's now stuck in your head the rest of the day!)

I'm known in my family to constantly make up words to songs but, for some reason, Kenny Rogers’ The Gambler is one song that I memorized by heart when I was younger and haven't forgotten. I know it's cheesy but I always get the chills when he sings, "...in his final words I found an ace that I could keep." This song has been on my mind lately because of the book we reviewed last month in our CliffsNotes Book Club. We discussed Maria Konnikova’s book, The Biggest Bluff. It’s the story of a researcher who sets out to learn poker—to really master it—and through that experience, we learn a great deal about managing your emotions, bias, self-discipline, decision-making, and more. (A special thanks to Judy Dickinson for the awesome presentation!)
 
Why Poker? Poker, more so than other games, mirrors life. To win, you need a balance of luck and skill, much like in real life. Also, you have to make decisions in poker as you do in real life, with limited information. You can see your own cards, but what are the others holding?
 
I jotted down a few takeaways that are particularly useful for my work with leaders.
 
  1. Tilt: Love this poker term. It’s the emotional energy you bring from your last game into your next game. If you won, you may be overly confident heading into your next game. If you lost, you may be forlorn. The lesson? Either way, recognize what’s happening and manage yourself.
  2. Thin Sliced Judgments: We make judgments so quickly that we make mistakes. The research by Nalini Umbadi on Thin Sliced Judgements urges us to look for more info, to help round out our initial impressions.
  3. Don't be a Fish: We have heard the term 'card shark,' but what about ‘being a fish?’ In poker, if you play it too passively, or play it too safe, you are a ‘fish.’ The lesson in poker, as in life, is that, if you sit on the sidelines, you lose.
  4. Bad Beat: You win in poker when you make good decisions, and when luck is on your side. If you make good decisions, but luck is not on your side, it’s a 'bad beat.' As a soccer mom, the poker concept of 'bad beat' reminds me of the cry “unlucky!” in soccer. If you make a great shot at goal, and it hits the goalpost, fans will shout “unlucky.” It’s an encouraging word to say, “shake it off!” Poker has a similar philosophy on handling setbacks. The lesson: Instead of dwelling on the 'bad beat,' bring your focus to the present, and on good decision making. 
  5. Poker Face, demystified: It turns out that there’s no such thing as the art of the tell. In The Gambler, Rogers talks about knowing how to read faces, and what we learn from Konnikova is that it’s the hands—not the face—that can reveal how a person is feeling. Who knew?! In book club, this prompted discussion of Paul Ekman’s research on Microgestures.
 
To learn more about the book, check out this Atlantic article, this NPR article, and the notes Judy prepared, on the portal.
 
What have games taught you about life?
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What Tetris  Teaches Us about Aligning our Values and  Actions

4/30/2021

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​Let’s face it. We’re busy. It’s easy to fall into the autopilot of DOING, and not remembering to check in with yourself to ask – Am I also LIVING my values?
 
Last month’s book club session was on Designing Your Life, by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans. It is the kind of book that speaks to you whether you’re seeking a new job, facing a transition, or  just in need of a personal check-in. The authors, Stanford Design Program professors, packed the book full of activities that are both fun and drive tremendous personal insights. (Check out the notes on the CliffsNotes book portal for more info.)
 
Build a Compass
One of the activities I found particularly useful is to build a compass to create alignment between what you believe in, and what you are actually doing. (The discussion of 'alignment' made me remember the game Tetris. We get so much satisfaction from creating these continuous lines that stack up so beautifully!) The compass activity is in three parts:
  1. Write a short reflection on your work-view
  2. Write a short reflection on your life-view
  3. Reflect on what you’ve written. Think about:
  • Where do your views on work and life complement one another?
  • Where do they clash?
  • Does one drive the other? How?

Hypothetically speaking, someone who values fun and connection and wants to create lasting family memories may be out of alignment when she can't manage to take more than two days off (and works for herself) and can't keep up with the laundry let alone plan a family vacation for winter break... you know, just as a hypothetical example. Seriously, though, we all get out of alignment, it's to be expected. These are the types of exercises to help us pause every now and then and get back on track. And it's important to focus on what action you want to take moving forward rather than get caught up on evaluating the past.

Maybe select one small change to get back in alignment. What would that look like?
After all, you’re a leader in your life—not just in one aspect of your life.
Leadership at Work & Beyond
The discussions about designing your life brought me back to how important it is to think about leadership in all domains of life. After all, you’re a leader in your life—not just in one aspect of your life. As I often say, it’s about leadership ‘at work and beyond.’ In working with leaders for decades, I find that this notion really resonates. It’s about being authentic and it’s about finding every opportunity to learn and grow.

​I rounded up some related posts on this ‘and beyond’ concept. Read on for more:
  • The Surprising Secret to Building a Culture of Continuous Improvement | This post focuses on mistakes, how organizations and individuals can grow by learning from them, and how to support continuous improvement in the workplace or at home.
  • The Fidget Spinner of Life: How to Create a Culture of Engagement | In this post, I provide an overview of how the Dynamic Engagement Model™  drives insights to support engagement at work and beyond.
  • Being Grounded: How to Build Confidence in Others | In this post, I outline tried-and-true strategies to help someone build confidence. The strategies are relevant to the workplace and parenting.
  • When You Ask Me for Tips on How to Delegate, Here’s What I Will Ask You Next… | In this post, I discuss the underlying psychological need for “control” which can hinder us from letting go of tasks, or delegating.
 
As always, let me know what resonates.
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Leadership Lessons from a Design Guru: Notes from Our Book Talk with Bruce Mau

3/30/2021

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Book club this month was a real delight. We heard from Bruce Mau, author of MC24: Bruce Mau's 24 Principles for Designing Massive Change in your Life and Work.

Watch the video of the highlights here!
 
In the book, Mau maps out his methodology and process for design, which has touched a wide range of projects in various industries. The 24 principles are both practical and thought provoking.
 
The first principle is: “First inspire. Design is leadership. Lead by design.” I have dedicated the past two decades to leadership development. This principle resonates with me because it gets to the core of leadership, which is about inspiring others.

As a leader, how are you inspiring others to think big and have the confidence and courage to act on their ideas?
 
During the talk, Mau shared that leadership is having the ability to envision a future and systematically execute the vision. Design has a methodology of leadership. It's about changing the context. It's about applying design principles to work through our most complex challenges.

See what I mean by inspiring others? 


What I’ll remember most about the session is that he’s a great storyteller and speaker. Here are just a few of the ‘Mau-isms’ that stuck with me:
  • We need to put LIFE at the center of design. Not HUMANS.
  • Definition of ‘Sketch’ – Low resolution ideas, fast and cheap.
  • Inspiration is the key. You can’t just TELL a client your idea. You must INSPIRE.
  • On listening – I need to take responsibility for what someone HEARD, not what I SAID.
  • The quality of a design is the quality of your life.
  • We need critical thinkers, not cynical thinkers.
 
I received the book as a birthday gift and will be going deeper into his concepts and the world of design. If you missed it, check out the video recording (30 min). So intriguing!

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Keeping Your Head Above Water: Lessons from Dan Heath’s Upstream

3/1/2021

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Also: What to do if you too often hit snooze on problem-solving, strategic planning, and other ‘important’ work—because of ‘urgent’ work

There are few things that coaches and facilitators (two ‘hats’ I wear throughout the workweek) love more than questions. Questions are the sharpest tool in our toolboxes—razor sharp, because we are always honing them. We know that how you frame a question impacts how the brain receives it. You can imagine my delight when, at book club this month, Laurie Shellenberger shared a new question set from the book Upstream by Dan Heath. In the book, Heath introduces the concept of “upstream thinking,” which is a way to look at the source or drivers for a problem, rather than the consequences of it. It’s a structure to consider complex and costly problems (e.g., Medicare spends a fortune on hospital visits that could be prevented). As you look at your most important strategic issues, consider Heath’s questions.
 
Questions for Upstream Thinkers
Problem-solving questions from Upstream by Dan Heath
1.      How will you unite the right people?
2.      How will you change the system?
3.      Where can you find a point of leverage?
4.      How will you get early warning of the problem?
5.      How will you know you’re succeeding?
6.      How will you avoid doing harm?
7.      Who will pay for what does not happen? 
 
How to Make Time to Look Upstream – Separating the ‘Urgent’ from the ‘Important’
As much as I love Heath's questions, I realize it’s only half of the plan. It’s one thing to have a great set of questions. It’s entirely another to carve out space and time for the ‘Upstream’ conversation. In other words, if you really want change to happen, you have to invest in time for strategic conversations. This is where I see many of my clients suffer.
 
Plan as we may, there’s always something unexpected that creeps up. It can be a challenge to handle urgent needs and carve out time for strategic, long-term priorities. I get it! The most effective leaders plan for both the urgent and important tasks (both planned and unexpected). Here are three simple steps to help you get started in managing this tension so you can make real change happen.
 
Step 1: Audit
From a workload perspective, survey yourself and see how you are spending your time. This may be a quick calendar audit exercise. As you look at the months ahead, ideally you have a healthy mix of items including:
  • Tactical check-ins, status meetings, risk reviews
  • Project- or team-level discussions and offsites
  • Leadership meetings to align on priorities, acknowledge shifts, discuss trends
  • Career conversations, 1:1 with your direct reports and your own mentors/advisors
  • Networking time to cultivate relationships and gain inspiration
 
Step 2: Analyze
As you look at how you’re spending your time, ask yourself, “Does each item have a purpose?” Gain clarity on the purpose and value of everything on your calendar. If not, what can be done? You want to get to a place where you make time for an offsite or strategic planning session and have peace of mind that you’re handing the “urgent” items in daily huddles, etc. Relentlessly edit your calendar to make this happen.
 
Step 3: Act
Aside from the 'edits' mentioned above, taking action could look like this:
  • Renegotiating with key stakeholders. Let others know that you are looking at your time closely and want to make adjustments. Find out if some of your commitments can shift. Ask: Can I send a delegate to abc event(s)? Is my presence needed at xyz meetings?
  • Create processes with accountability checks baked in. For example: I know I won’t review my schedule proactively on my own. Instead, I schedule meetings with my assistant, so we review the calendar together consistently.
 
At Work and Beyond
Yes, please try this at home! This approach works at work and beyond. If you were to map your personal and family time to the purpose and value, what would you find? Ask yourself:
  • Are we engaging the way we want to?
  • Are we having the experiences we want to? Cultivating the traditions we want to?
  • In ten years’ time, will we have regrets?
 
You know the steps! Walk through them. Pro tip: You might not want to call your family members ‘stakeholders,’ but you can do a verbal dance around that.
 
Let me know how you’re doing managing the ‘urgent,’ and how these tips help. As always, keep the feedback coming!

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Experiencing Zoom Fatigue? Creative Icebreakers to Spark Joy at Your Next Virtual Meeting

2/1/2021

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“How do tangible things create an intangible feeling of joy?” This is the question Ingrid Fetell Lee explores in the book Joyful, our January book club discussion topic. I have been “joyspotting” in the weeks since the discussion, noticing how even seemingly mundane things like a bundle of colorful new markers on my desk can spark a moment of joy.
 
(It was a great discussion, and you can check out the notes on the In the Know portal. Also check out Ingrid Fetell Lee’s TED Talk.)

While the book focuses on visual queues or environmental factors that spark joy, I have also been noticing joy in other places. In meetings, for example, there’s something indulgently delightful about a surprise moment of connection.

My team and I work to create these moments through activities such as icebreakers and even a creative way to do round-robin introductions in an otherwise perfunctory, predictable meeting. It could be the creativity, the unexpected “break” from the agenda, or a combination of all of the above…but it surely is joyful. If you were to measure the audio volume in a meeting, you’re sure to hear laughter (and overall less multi-tasking/more engagement) as well. As one client reminded me this week, these fun activities also go a long way toward building relationships and trust, in case you need a bottom-line driven reason to invest the time in a seemingly “off topic” agenda item.

To help you get started, and because we all need to spice up our Zoom game this many months into the pandemic, here’s a fun list of icebreakers you can try out. Let me know how it goes!

Icebreaker Recommendations for Your Next Virtual Meeting
We are all working hard to keep Zoom exciting. I recently pulsed a group of coaches and facilitators and added to my bag of tricks. Here are a few you may wish to try.
  • Photo theme. Assign a theme before the meeting (e.g., Island Paradise, Food, Fashion). Show a picture in your virtual (Zoom) background that relates to the theme.
  • Create a playlist. Work with the group to decide on a theme and request songs related to the theme such as your favorite TV theme song, or favorite song to work out to, or favorite song for relaxation. Choose a different song to open each meeting. Let the members guess who selected the song. Send out the playlist to everyone.
  • High/low. Ask everyone to share one high point and one low point (professional or personal) since our last meeting.
  • Weekend movie. For Monday morning meetings, send a link to a movie for them to watch the weekend before. Mail blankets and popcorn to each person’s home. Open the meeting by talking about the movie. If you want to get really clever, select a movie that relates in some way to your team's strategy.
  • Quick chat box openers
    • What are you binge watching these days?
    • What word do you hope you do not hear in 2021?
    • Favorite podcast or book or music?
    • If you could have any fictional character as your friend, who would it be and why?
    • If you could magically become an expert in any other field, what would that be?
    • What has been one great “discovery” during quarantine? (e.g., peppermint ice cream, personal work style insight, etc.)
    • What is now part of your new routine? (e.g., “I realize I need to walk my dog more often”)
  • Personal artifact. Bring one artifact to the next meeting that represents something about you that others may not already know.
  • Inspired>bored. Ask everyone, Where you on a scale from “Inspired to Bored?” – Assign numbers (+3 to -3). Ask the same question at the start and end of the meeting.
  • 3 words. List three words to describe our last offsite or team meeting.
  • Moments of pause. Add to your agenda a “moment of pause” at the start of each meeting. These are brief (2 mins or less) random “shares” that could include a short video, a funny commercial, a meme, a cartoon, a poem, a video of an artist, the more diverse the better! Your group can establish the criteria (e.g., stay within the core values, nothing political, etc.) but try not to create too many limits. This not only allows for a pause from one meeting to the next but adds creativity, diversity, and connection among the group members. Once a person shares, ask them to select the next person to open up the next meeting.
  • Use mentimeter.com to create visually interesting questions using scales and word clouds. (Use some of the questions in this list to get you started.)

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What The Jetsons  Could Not Teach Me  About Living  In the Future - Reflections on 2020

12/23/2020

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Happy New Year! When I was a kid, 2020 was THE year of the future. I can remember a school assignment where we were asked to write about the year 2020. Influenced greatly by The Jetsons, I imagined flying cars, eating pills instead of food, and holograms everywhere. Little did I know at the time that the reality of 2020 is that I would rarely ride in a car (let alone a flying one), I would be eating way too much real food (and taking pills to help me sleep), and attending endless Zoom meetings (which, I guess is pretty close to holograms so maybe I got one prediction right). Thinking about the loss of loved ones, it is hard to think about anything positive in 2020. Yet, I am wrapping up the year with a sense of resilience and growth. Here are some personal lessons and reminders from 2020:

  • Have hope for hope: As I think about the family members left behind who are mourning from a loss of a loved one (due to COVID or other causes), I see their deepest heartache and also their deepest strength that helps them get by one day at a time. I once heard author Anna Whiston-Donaldson speak about her book, Rare Bird, a memoir of her 12 year-old son who tragically died in a flash flood near their home. She said something that I’ll never forget. “At the time of the tragedy, I had no hope. But I had hope that I would have hope again someday.” Hope is what gets us through the toughest of times.
 
  • Lean in to adversity: In our family, my 13-year old son was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes (T1D) out of the blue in September. This is an autoimmune disease that you have to manage 24/7, and it was quite an adjustment for our entire family. Through his experience, he uncovered a need and ended up creating an app that other T1Ds could use from day one of diagnosis to make their lives just a little easier. The app, T1D1 (Type 1 from Day 1), went live and has almost 10,000 downloads. He receives letters each day about how he’s improving the lives of others. His resiliency has truly been an inspiration to all! 
 
  • Turn challenges into possibilities: Some time this spring, as the reality of working virtually sank in, I had a “oh shit” moment. Building an entire career around experiential, hands-on learning, I thought to myself, “How am I ever going to lead a meaningful workshop again?” Turns out this was the exact challenge I needed to push me to think more creatively and dream up new ideas of what’s possible. I quickly learned the latest technologies and began experimenting with new ways of engaging online. I honestly should be getting a commission from Miro based on the amount of times I’ve showcased that tool and how I’m using it. It brings me so much energy to tap into my creativity and reinvent learning and development in the virtual space. In many ways, the overall learning experience has improved for my clients.
 
I hope you can sift through the hardships and the heartbreaks of 2020 and find some glimmers of hope and happiness. Wishing you and your family all the best.
 
Laura

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Building Resiliency through Personal Triumph. Writing a Personal Pep Talk, Pandemic-Style.

11/23/2020

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“How the @#*! am I going to get through this?” It’s a question I hear a lot these days—from the leaders I work with and also (admittedly) from the voices in my own head. It’s not the kind of question that generates creative brainstorming and explore-the-possibilities thinking. While it does not feel good in the moment, it’s these situations that build resiliency for the future. All you need is one seed of hope.

With that backdrop, in book club last month, Chris Westbrook led a discussion on Leadership in Turbulent Times by historian Doris Kearns Goodwin. In the book, the author presents details of the leadership journeys of Abraham Lincoln, Theodore Roosevelt, Franklin D. Roosevelt, and Lyndon B. Johnson. She talks about how these four American leaders recognized leadership qualities in themselves and how they showed up as leaders to others. (Check out the portal for Chris’ discussion notes.)

It was interesting to hear about how, while the four presidents’ leadership styles were different, there is a lot of overlap in leadership behaviors and traits such as their storytelling ability, political acumen, empathy, and ability to learn from their own mistakes.
 
But perhaps what was most eye-opening for me is hearing about how these four presidents each faced major adversity and hardship early in life, such as professional humiliation, loss of loved ones, and health struggles. In a word, they were resilient.
 
Reflecting on the presidents’ challenges, the discussion naturally turned to the “how the BLEEP are we going to get through this?” question. The pandemic is on everyone’s minds, and it is no wonder any look back at history and the seemingly unbelievable challenges in the past can inspire both fear and awe!
 
When I work with leaders who are feeling stuck, I invite them to do a little digging. Each of us has overcome something in life, at some point. Taking time to access your success stories allows you to draw on that strength, and move forward—in those moments when the weight of the problem is holding you back. This is our personal reservoir of resilience. It’s what gives us the hope we need to manage the struggle du jour, get clarity, and recast a vision. We all have these seeds of hope, but we don’t all honor and recognize them.
 
Ask yourself:
  • What about this situation is similar to something I overcame in my past?
  • How did I get through that tough situation in the past? (Think about your mindset, your support system, your attitude, the resources you had access to.)
  • What can I apply from that situation that may help me overcome this one?
 
Yeah, exactly! That! That’s the seed of hope. Hold onto it. You got this!


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When you ask me  for tips on how to delegate, here is what I will ask you next...

10/27/2020

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​"Good grief." It's times like these that no one better than Charlie Brown can put into TWO (G-rated) WORDS exactly what is on our minds. Whether you have school-aged kids at home, are helping to care for loved ones, are managing challenges at work or are looking for a job, (or some combo thereof) we all have a WHOLE LOT going on. When we emerge from our TV binges—Charlie Brown holiday specials, or whatever else provides a few moments of mental respite—we find ourselves juggling so much on the home front, that it can be hard not to bring it to work. 

At book club this month, we discussed Mike Robbins’ 
Bring Your Whole Self to Work. The book provides perspective on, in a nutshell, how we work best when we can be ourselves. Every workplace out there has a culture, a set of written and unwritten rules for success, and some are better than others at allowing for employees to be authentic. Robbins urges us to be authentic and share about ourselves—that is, open up about what really makes us tick—when we enter the doors of the office, or the Zoom meeting room, as may be the case for most of us these days.
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The discussion we had at book club is related to something I often speak about in coaching sessions and in trainings. We all have some basic psychological needs that, when met, make us feel more motivated and more engaged.

As an aside: This holds true for adults and kids alike. That's why the principles that we teach leaders in the workplace also work for relationships outside of work.

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“Feeling empowered,” for example, is one of the three foundational needs in the Dynamic Engagement model, along with "feeling valued" and "feeling connected." The underlying psychological need is related to control. When people feel they have a sense of autonomy, they feel they have control over their decisions. When a person feels that they are not in control, they could end up feeling helpless and spiral downwards quickly.
 
The challenge for leaders is learning how to step in and set guardrails/structure for others while also stepping back and allowing people to create/innovate. Many leaders struggle with this tension and often ask for tips on how to delegate. However, we suggest before jumping to the mechanics of learning how to delegate, you think about why it may be hard to delegate. It's worth investigating some time thinking about why it may be so hard for you to let go. In working with so many leaders over the years, I've heard a variety of reasons as to why people struggle with delegation. For example, some people struggle because they don't want to risk damaging relationships and burdening others by putting more on their plates. While others don't fully trust that their employee is capable or able to think critically about key decisions. And, then there's some who simply don't want to give up control.  We work with leaders to look beneath the surface and uncover the why. First address the why, then address the how. We encourage you to do the same.

The next time you're feeling overwhelmed, see if there's a way to delegate to others (in your professional or personal life). And, if you find yourself hesitating to delegate to others, pause for a moment to think about the why and address those challenges first. As always, we love hearing from you and finding out what works. Keep us posted!
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How to be an antiracist? For now, there's no action needed, just start by thinking differently.

8/28/2020

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I recently met with a client who had completed the DiSC personality assessment for the first time. So naturally I asked, what insights or learnings have you applied since taking that assessment? The answer was surprising. She said, "Honestly, I've been so busy, I have not have much time to do anything differently." I was confused by this comment at first, and then realized why. The DiSC is a mental model. From my perspective, the most powerful piece of the DiSC model is that it helps one understand and appreciate differences. It's not about carving out the time to DO something, it's literally about thinking differently about others. Having more empathy, being more open to a new viewpoint, or, if you really want to go out on a ledge, actually agreeing to a different approach that you typically wouldn't support. After explaining this to the client, she replied, "So you're saying, it's not that I have to DO anything...I need to BE different."

That's it! Well, at least that's the first step and then, once your mindset changes, your behaviors shift, too. This concept of reflection and challenging your own assumptions (rather than focusing on immediate action) was also the message I walked away with after hosting a community discussion on Race and Racial Inequity.

It's a good rule to follow, in general: When you receive the gift of some big insight, sit with it for a minute.
 
Taking the First Step: Self-Reflection and Education
Three months have passed since George Floyd was murdered. Many people are thinking to themselves, what I have done to change my ways? How am I contributing to change or taking action?
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I recently came together with a group of people who have these same questions. It was our intention to reflect, regroup, and move forward. Led by facilitators Dana Karp and Anita Hinton, this group was thoughtful and smart and motivated and had feelings of being both hopeless and hopeful. 
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We all listened to this interview with Brené Brown and Ibram Kendi, author of the 2019 bestseller How to Be an Antiracist, and then shared our responses to these reflection questions:
  • What emotions did you experience when listening to the podcast?​
  • What truths or confirming ideas surfaced for you?
  • What was the most impactful surprise?
  • What are you most curious about now?
  • What are you discovering about yourself through this podcast and from your experience with the country’s current racial tension?

You'll notice that the questions were crafted around reflecting on one's own reactions, thoughts, and emotions. This was very intentional. The facilitators have learned that any movement or action must begin with self reflection and education. Once you do that, you will get clarity on actions to take. 

​It was a great model for a difficult discussion. We first broke into smaller groups where people felt free to be more vulnerable and then we engaged in a large group discussion with almost 50 people on the call. 

The takeaways for everyone were unique, of course. I can only speak for myself. I commit to keep pushing myself into the uncomfortable conversations and continue to educate myself on the things I didn't even know I didn't know. Inspired by our discussion, I ordered the young adult book, Stamped by Jason Reynolds and Ibram Kendi, and read it on our vacation last week in the hopes that I could pass this on to my High School and Middle School aged children. The authors jokingly repeated that, "This is NOT a history book" so the young adults would actually read it. But I assure you, this was the best history book I've ever read. So eye opening to the impact and intention of policies that I knew nothing about. This book helped me to see the systemic issues that were in place long before the U.S. was even established. 

Diversity Resources to Check Out
The other powerful outcome that resulted from this group was a list of resources generated by this group. Click on this link to access the list of suggestions ranging from podcasts to books to movies all in service of educating ourselves further. And, if you have other recommendations to add to the list, let me know... I'm continuing to add to it and will keep the list updated. 

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Move over empathy, here comes compassion

7/29/2020

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“Move over bacon, here comes something leaner.” If you were watching TV in the U.S. in the 1980s, you may recall this commercial for Sizzlean. (And you’re welcome for the trip down memory lane.) It came to mind as I participated in the virtual Mindfulness Summit and watched the session on “Choose Compassion over Empathy.” The topic is something which my brain framed as “Move over empathy, here comes compassion.” Based on neuroscience research, there is discussion that empathy can lead to emotional exhaustion, whereas a focus on compassion can lead to a sense of love and affiliation. There’s a move to focus on cultivating compassion. This blog post has a brief summary of the research. 

I haven’t read all the research behind this discussion in depth, but I’m struck by the “either/or” mindset at play. I also found it interesting that compassion, as they propose, is the action of doing something for the person, even if it’s simply sitting with a person who is in need. The action, rather than feeling (as is the case with empathy), is what contributes to the goodness.
 
I can understand why engaging empathy is potentially problematic if when one is overusing empathy to the neglect of something else. I’m not convinced, though, that you can feel compassion if your body doesn’t first pick up on empathy. I’ll use a real example from my family. When my son was very little, he had a hard time reading social cues. We had to teach him that if someone else gets hurt, you say, “Are you OK?” And then if they’re not, you might follow up with, “Can I get you some ice?” This may seem robotic, but it was a very important part of the process to help our son begin to connect the dots, and connect with people. We worked with him to know that, when you see others suffering, you respond, you reach out…
 
I think what’s behind the recent empathy/compassion debate is that people are viewing empathy as getting too wrapped up in another person's emotions and then not taking action and/or not setting the appropriate boundaries to protect yourself from burnout. In other words, taking on another person's suffering. While I agree that it’s a real risk, the upside (when leveraged well) is that empathy allows you to see another person’s point of view. Compassion is what happens as a result. To me it's more sequential.
 
Set me straight on this, will you? Would love to hear about your experiences.


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How to do work differently?   Get creative.

6/23/2020

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Many people are now asking, what can I be doing to support Black Lives Matter? From a workplace point of view, one way to make a difference is to do work differently. Go about the same work, tackle the same problems, but do it in a way that may be more inclusive than you have done in the past.
 
Earlier this month, I facilitated a book review of Creativity Inc., written by Pixar’s co-founder, Ed Catmull. After accomplishing his career goals of making a full-length, animated feature film, he then turned his efforts towards a new goal – creating an organizational culture of creativity. He views creativity as the magic that brings people together and produces exceptional outcomes. At Pixar, he made it his primary goal to explore, analyze, experiment, and evaluate how to build a culture of creativity. Even if you don’t work for an exceptionally creative organization, there are many things you as a leader can implement—or simply experiment with—on your own team. This creative mindset leads to an openness to experiment and do work differently.

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Some Nuggets of Inspiration from Ed Catmull of Pixar Animation

  • Give everyone, at every level, the freedom to ‘problem-solve without permission.’ Encourage people at any level to manage the problems they encounter and take ownership for the solution. Catmull explains that a mistake he had made in the past was to confuse the organizational structure with the communication structure. What are some biases that you may have about people at different levels in your organization? How have you prepared your team, at all levels, to think analytically, problem-solve, and identify solutions? When you encourage others, at any level, to take ownership your team not only feels valued but you, as the leader will be able to focus your attention on more strategic matters.
 
  • Protect the ‘Ugly Baby.’ Catmull recognizes that amazing ideas rarely start out as amazing. He knew from past experience that most great ideas start out as ordinary ones—or worse. Those ideas that “got to great” did so because they were nurtured. Catmull explains that you have to nurture and protect your ‘Ugly Baby,’ his term for budding creative ideas, so they have a chance to blossom. From a diversity standpoint, think about who you often turn to for new ideas. Is it always the same people? Whose ideas are heard? In what ways can you broaden your scope to bring in more diverse ideas? How do you create a safe environment for people to toss out half-baked ideas?
 
  • Focus on the team, not individual talent. Catmull worked with a team of amazing creatives. Yet he says the power of the company was in the composition of great teams, more so than the presence of individuals with particular talent. If you give a good idea to a mediocre team, they will screw it up. If you give a mediocre idea to a brilliant team, they will either fix it or throw it away and come up with something even better. How are you investing in your team? Do you leverage the differences on your team or do the differences hinder performance? Do your team members know how to have healthy debate while preserving relationships?
 
Check out the book for more, or check out my discussion summary on the In the Know book club page.
 
What’s coming up for you? I challenge you to experiment and think about what you have influence over to create a more inclusive and diverse working environment. Let us know how you’re doing work differently.

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